“We Fall In Love By Chance, We Stay In Love By Choice.” By Unknown
By Gabrielle Thorpe
Love. Love is an intense feeling of deep affection. I believe anyone is capable of finding love, if they are willing. To fall in love, you must be willing to get hurt, often I hear people say “I’m scared of getting hurt”, or “I put up a wall so I won’t get hurt again”. I am a strong believer in love, and I believe you must be willing to get hurt to find true love. You can’t expect someone to truly love you and get to know you as a person without going through rough patches. Love is like a garden, it needs to be tended to with the proper amount of water and sun. Making sure to monitor for pest that can harm the fruits and veggies.
After putting in the work to make such a beautiful garden you will feel such a since of pride for the beauty you have created. It takes a lot of work to get a garden growing to its full potential, just like love. You must have equal balance of love, and affection, compromise and communication, trust, and respect.
The Five Love Languages
There is a book written by Gary Chapman, The Five Love languages, where he discusses how people express love in different ways. For some, Words of Affirmation is the way they accept or express their love, when you or your partner is open and expressive in telling you how wonderful they think you are, how much they appreciate you. Others feel as if Acts of Service is the best way to express love, by offering to watch the kids so you can go to the gym or relieving you of some other task.
Many people language is Affection. This love language is just as it sounds. A warm hug, a kiss, touch, and sexual intimacy make you feel most loved. Quality time is another, this language is about being together, fully present and engaged in the activity at hand, no matter how trivial. And finally, Gifts, some people believe taking the time to give you a gift can make you feel appreciated.
Advice of Love
With these ways of expressing and receiving love it is imperative to find what works best for you and your partner, getting to know one another and their boundaries and limits, what make one another who they are as a person. One thing I have learned in my relationship is that you should be willing to apologize and understand when you are wrong. It is not always fun or easy but occasionally it is necessary. Being able to admit when you are wrong and trying to fix your own mistakes and faults. It’s never easy to own up to your mistakes but when you love someone you should be willing to be the bigger person for the good of the relationship.
I believe to achieve True Love you must work for it, it does not come easily. Arguments, disagreements, and miscommunication is normal. No relationship is perfect that’s the beauty of it. Love is a beautiful, amazing journey for those who are willing to experience it.
Reaching Out For Help
If you feel you need a counselor or therapist during your love journey, or if you are having difficulties in your relationship, reach out to us. At True You Southeast, we want you to happy and feel loved. We offer therapy sessions Monday through Friday and Saturdays, so you can learn to experience love for others and self-love. Give us a call at 404-800-7586 or email us here.