By Gabrielle Thorpe
When you recover or discover something that nourishes your soul and brings joy, care enough about yourself to make room for it in your life. – Jean Shinoda Bolen
In our daily lives we tend to find ourselves so busy with school, work, family, and other responsibilities that we forget to take time out for ourselves. Many people feel guilty for taking time to focus on themselves. Thinking about everything else they could be doing or getting accomplished in that time. However, concentrating on yourself every now and then is important for self-health and can improve overall happiness. Putting yourself first should ever be optional. Take care of yourself so that you can take care of all the other important thing life has for you.
Self-care is important in sustaining a healthy relationship with yourself. It produces positive feelings while boosting your confidence and self-esteem. It’s to remind yourself and others that you and your needs are important too. There are so many ways to take time out for yourself, here are a few:
Explore The Guilt:
When you feel bad or guilty about taking time for yourself, write it down. Write your thoughts and feelings down so you can observe what’s going on, instead of letting your mind get carried away. Courtney Carver the author of “7 Ways to Take More Time for Yourself and Stop Feeling Guilty About It” says to Ask yourself:
- How can I feel guilty for taking care of myself?
- If a friend needed alone time, would I fault them for it or support them?
Leave your guilt on your paper and do what you need to do to take care of yourself. When you have time for yourself to recharge you aren’t just serving yourself, but also everyone around you. By taking care of yourself first, you’ll have more energy and attention for the people you love.
Learn to say no:
Don’t be afraid to say no or set boundaries and rules. Keep your “no” short and sweet. Author Anne Lamott says, “‘No- is a complete sentence.” In just a few sentences, you can say no with gratitude. “No thank you. I appreciate you thinking of me, but I have another commitment” is better than a long explanation about how busy and sorry you are. But it can be necessary, if you feel your body getting to its limits. If you need a day off, take the day off. It’s always better to keep yourself healthy and happy then letting your responsibilities run you ragged.
Discover your sanctuary:
Find a few places you love to go, a few things you love to do, and what you need as an individual. Your “sanctuary” may not always be a location, but rather an activity like scrapbooking, writing, exercise, or meditation. As long as you find something that can bring down your stress levels, keep you calm, give your brain a work out, and bring you joy you are on the right track.
It can be hard to disconnect from the obligations you have. Just remember you need to step back and allow yourself to have a life outside of your responsibilities. You should not feel guilty or be afraid to put yourself first and take care of yourself. You are too important to not consider how you are feeling and what you need. Life can be overwhelming never forget to put yourself first, know your worth.