By Gabrielle Thorpe
Our uniqueness, our individuality, and our life experience molds us into fascinating beings. I hope we can embrace that. I pray we may all challenge ourselves to delve into the deepest resources of our hearts to cultivate an atmosphere of understanding, acceptance, tolerance, and compassion. We are all in this life together. – Linda Thompson
Have you ever had a hard time fitting in somewhere? Maybe at school or work, a new group of friends, or even your own family. In the world we live in today I feel that acceptance is more important than it has ever been before. Acceptance in human psychology is a person’s assent to the reality of a situation, recognizing a process or condition without attempting to change it or protest it. Feeling accepted is so important to one’s confidences in themselves and their self-growth. However, you need to fully accept yourself and who you are before you can truly accept someone else. In the article 12 Ways to Accept Yourself, By Margarita Tartakovsky, M.S. she explains multiple ways on helping her clients accept themselves.
Ways to Accept Yourself
A few of her suggestions are: Celebrate Your Strengths: Hone in on your strengths and abilities by writing them down. Forgive Yourself: Past regrets can prevent us from practicing self-acceptance, forgive yourself and move on. Shush Your Inner Critic: “I believe in the power of mantra and encourage clients to select a mantra that is normalizing, calming and encouraging during times when the inner critic rears its ugly head,” Margarita said. Speak To Your Highest Self: She often asks her clients to visualize their highest and best self that lies deep within them. Then asks them to imagine their highest self, stepping outside of them and looking at them in their current life circumstance or situation. She asks her clients to imagine what their highest or best self would advise them to do. Be Kind To Yourself: Many people are hesitant to show even a shred of self-kindness because they see it as selfish or undeserved. But the key to self-compassion is “to understand that weakness and frailty are part of the human experience,” according to Deborah Serani, PsyD.
Accepting Your Strengths
These are just a few of the ways Margarita Tartakovsky, M.S teaches her clients great ways on accepting themselves.
- Color/ Race/ ethnicity
- Shape/ Size
- Sex/ Gender
- Financial/ Economical Stand Point
- Mental/Physical State
All of these are thing that separate us from one another and that’s okay! If everyone was the same, it would be a very boring world. If you have ever thought of someone as different or odd change your perspective, that person is unique and special. What makes you different from everyone around you is what makes you unique! We live in a world that being different is welcomed and inspiring to others. We need to learn t0 accept anyone who is brave enough to show their true selves instead of seeing it as wrong or “uncommon”. We should encourage people to be themselves instead of tearing them down. Allowing one another to be happy in their own skin and learning from their bravery.
Reaching Out For Help
If you are struggling with self acceptance, we can help at True You Southeast. You don’t have to struggle with the way you feel about yourself or your body. You can reach out to us at 404-800-7586 or contact us by email here.
Gabrielle Thorpe is in her third year of her psychology major in college and an administrative assistant at True You Southeast.